Intimacy, Sam Borrett 2007

Although the whole world has become a global village, it still looks daunting or sometimes even intimidating. Families, relationships and friends provide a buffer and support however they are only a buffer as each of us has to come to terms with the global phenomena and our place in it. Support can certainly encourage us to keep going and not give up, but we still remain small in comparison to the world around us.

Intimacy is an altogether different challenge.

When we open up to our intimate partners and friends we feel more connected, centred and at ease.

The dilemma is that everybody is waiting for the other person to open up as they are also waiting to be loved. In either case it is obvious that the easier solution is for us to open up first or for us to love first. We will find out very quickly that this way to live is the most intelligent and honest. The responsibility is all ours and we cannot make someone else open up or love us anyway.

The other person may well follow our lead but if not, we have lost nothing and gained some integrity into the bargain. We have taken a risk and declared our love or opened up to the other. As a bi-product, we will feel more at peace with ourselves and the world.

Intimacy with our wives, husbands, partners or lovers is absolutely essential and with everybody else as well. But that is more difficult naturally.

Certainly it is obvious that with the worldwide proliferation of social networking that humans need to connect even more and it seems with more urgency than ever. These cyber relationships need to quickly translate into some sort of real connections or relationships unless they are about business. If not, people can waste a lot of very precious time they will never regain.

But more importantly humans need to love and be loved and unless this can be a real possibility for people they will continue reaching out and perhaps getting nowhere. Of course social networking and sharing valuable tools in this age is important and we can learn a lot from each other through forums, chat rooms and other networking groups. But the real endeavour and beauty lie in the intermingling of people with each other.

If you are having issues with Intimacy we can help you work through them in a confidential, trusting atmosphere where it will become possible for you to move forward with a real understanding of what is required in a relationship if it is to be sustained.

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